Friday, March 28, 2008

I can't laugh. I can smile

In my opinion, motherhood is something you just have to experience to know what it is really like. People tell you it is going to be hard and you figure it will be. You also assume there will be joy in it and there is. I thought that it might be challenging at times, but I don't think I expected it to be the hardest thing I ever did. On too many occasions I have found myself daydreaming about my old desk job. Obviously, I had three children on purpose and continue to stay home with them so the benefits must definitely outweigh the sacrifices. When I learn of someone having their first baby, I try not to offer unsolicited advice. I think we all have a different journey in motherhood and someone else's concerns and feelings won't be what mine were. That being said, my girlfriends have been the best resource and comfort to me in this road I am traveling down. I hope I can be the same to others. It kept me going today to talk on the phone to a friend with three kids who confirmed to me "yeah, it is really hard and if anyone says differently they aren't telling the truth." I love that my friends tell me "he will grow out of it" and help me realize the little things that wear me down daily are really not that big of a deal. My friend on the phone today and I both agreed that one day we would laugh about all this, but we will not be laughing right now.

The Parent Bloggers Network has more truth stories about motherhood. In addition, The Discovery Health Network is starting a new docu-drama called "Deliver Me" that follows OBGYNs in their practice and in their lives as mothers.


Amanda said...

With having three small children myself, I can totally relate to this post. Though mothering is the MOST rewarding "job", it is the HARDEST and most CHALLENGING job a person (woman) could ever have. I love being a mom and feel blessed to be able to stay home with my kids, but there are days (many days, in fact) where I daydream of having my independence. I think EVERY mom has those days, and if they don't admit it, they are NOT being honest to anyone, including themselves.

Kristi said...

Oh how I can totally relate as well!!!! Although of course I knew that motherhood was going to be more than I could imagine, I never knew that motherhood would so encompass and take ALL of who I am...and that even though it would be the toughest, most challenging "job" I could ever do, I would want to do it all over again in a heartbeat!!

Thanks for sharing and being honest! I agree...EVERY mom totally has times like this!!

Golightly said...

Oh I SO understand and agree whole-heartedly!! It is tough, I did expect it to be, it is worth it, I will laugh over these fleeting moments some day. But there are the days that a good vacation on a desert island sounds, well, perfect!

Thank you for your kind words on my blog.